Having a disobedient child is the worst nightmare for any parent, as there are already enough hardships and challenges coming with the parenthood-package! As a parent, that is your biggest fear, as deep down you know that disobedience is the origin of all evils, and failures, in this life and, in turn, in the hereafter, for sure. Day and night, we do our maximum for raising our children well, and protecting them from the deviation of disobedience.
With no doubt, all parents have such pure love, endless care and constant concern for their children, no matter how old they get. Maybe, our children don’t realize how much we always struggle for their own good, and success, especially when they are in critical times, like when being too young, or too stubborn to understand that. Certainly, Allah knows the most of what we all go through to keep that trust of children; to Him we wholeheartedly supplicate for their righteousness and obedience.
Indisputably, it is essential to primarily define the proper obedience in Islam, and its reasonable conditions. Also, let’s find out, as parents, how to help our children to be obedient, whether through our required attitude towards them, or our supplications to Allah for their good.
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Dua’ for the Disobedient Child:
Dua’ is such ‘a magical stick’ for the Muslims! By sincere dua’, everything can be changed for the good, as it is a devoted submission to Allah, The All-Capable of everything. Try these du’as, whenever your child becomes disobedient, angry, or stubborn:
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
Rabbana hab lana min azwajinaa wa zurriyyatina qurrata a’yunin waj-alnaa lil muttaqiina imaama.
[Our Lord! Bless us with pious spouses and offspring who will be the joy of our hearts, and make us models for the righteous.] [Surah Al-Furqan, 25:74]
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رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنَ الصَّالِحِينَ
Rabbi hab lii minas-solihiin.
[My Lord! Bless me with righteous offspring.] [Surah As-Saffat, 37:100]
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وَأَصْلِحْ لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي ۖ إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِين
wa aslih lii fii zurriyyati inni tubtu ilaika wa inni minal-muslimin.
[make righteous for me my offspring. Indeed, I have repented to You, and indeed, I am of the Muslims.] [Al-Ahqaf: 15].
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رَبِّ هَبْ لِي مِنْ لَدُنْكَ ذُرِّيَّةً طَيِّبَةً ۖ إِنَّكَ سَمِيعُ الدُّعَاءِ
Rabbi hab lii min ladunka zurriyyatan toyyibatan innaka samii’ud-du’aa.
[My Lord, grant me from Yourself a good offspring. Indeed, You are the Hearer of supplication.]
[Surah Ali ‘Imran, 3:38]
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اللهم اجعل أبنائي هداة مهتدين غير ضالين ولا مضلين، اللهم جنبهم الفواحش والمحن والزلازل والفتن ما ظهر منها وما بطن، اللهم سلمهم من العلل والآفات، اللهم سلمهم من شر الأشرار آناء الليل وأطراف النهار واهدهم لما تحبه واغفر لهم يا غفار.
Allahumma aj’al abna’i hudatan muhtadeen ghayra daalleen wa la mudilleen, Allahumma jannibhum al-fawahish wal-mihan wal-zalazil wal-fitan ma dhahara minha wa ma batan, Allahumma sallimhum min al-‘ilal wal-afat, Allahumma sallimhum min shar al-ashrar ana’a al-layl wa ataraf an-nahar, wa ihdihim lima tuhibbu waghfir lahum ya ghafaar.
(O Allah, make my children righteous guides, not misguided, nor leading others astray. O Allah, protect them from immoralities, trials, earthquakes, and tribulations, both apparent and hidden. O Allah, keep them safe from diseases and afflictions. O Allah, protect them from the evil of the wicked, day and night, and guide them to what You love and forgive them, O Forgiving One.)
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اللهم لا تزغ قلوبهم بعد إذ هديتهم وهب لهم من لدنك رحمة وهيئ لهم من أمرهم رشدا. اللهم من علي ببقاء أولادي وبإصلاحهم لي وبإمتاعي بهم، اللهم امدد في أعمارهم بالصحة والعافية في طاعتك ورضاك، اللهم رب لي صغيرهم وقوي لي ضعيفهم، اللهم نزه قلوبهم عن التعلق بمن هم دونك وما هو دونك واجعلهم ممن تحبهم ويحبونك، اللهم ارزقهم حبك وحب نبيك محمد وحب كل من يحبك وحب كل عمل يقربهم إلى حبك.
Allahumma la tuzigh qulubahum ba’da idh hadaytahum wahab lahum min ladunka rahmah wa hayyi’ lahum min amrihim rashada. Allahumma munn ‘alayya bibaqa’i awladi wa biislahihim li wa bi-imtahi bihim, Allahumma amdid fi a’amarahum bil-sihhah wal-‘afiyah fi ta’atik wa ridhak, Allahumma rabb li saghirahum wa qaww li da’ifahum, Allahumma nazzih qulubahum ‘an al-ta’alluq biman hum doonak wa ma huwa doonak waj’alhum mimman tuhibbuhum wa yuhibbunak, Allahumma arzuqhum hubbaka wa hubba nabiyyika Muhammad wa hubba kulli man yuhibbuka wa hubba kulli ‘amalin yuqarribuhum ila hubbik.
(O Allah, do not let their hearts deviate after You have guided them, grant them mercy from Yourself, and guide them in their affairs rightly. O Allah, favor me with the continued existence of my children, with their reform for me, and with the joy of them.
O Allah, extend their lives with health and well-being in obedience to You and Your pleasure. O Allah, raise their young for me and strengthen their weak. O Allah, cleanse their hearts from attachment to anything less than You and anyone other than You. Make them among those whom You love and who love You. O Allah, grant them Your love, the love of Your Prophet Muhammad, the love of everyone who loves You, and the love of every deed that brings them closer to Your love.)
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للهم اجعلهم لي مطيعين غير عاصين ولا عاقين ولا خاطئين، اللهم أعني على تربيتهم وتأديبهم وبرهم واجعل ذلك خيرًا لي ولهم، اللهم علق قلوبهم بالمساجد وبطاعتك، واجعلهم من أوجه من توجه إليك وأحبك ورغب إليك. اللهم اجعلهم حفظة لكتابك ودعاة في سبيلك ومبلغين عن رسولك، اللهم اجعل القرآن العظيم ربيع قلوبهم وشفاء صدورهم ونورًا لأبصارهم.
Allahumma aj’alhum li muti’een ghayra ‘aseen wa la ‘aqeen wa la khati’een, Allahumma a’inni ‘ala tarbiyatihim wa ta’adeebihim wa birrihim wa aj’al dhalika khayran li wa lahum, Allahumma ‘alliq quloobahum bil-masajid wa bita’atik, waj’alhum min awjah man tawajaha ilayk wa ahabbak wa raghaba ilayk. Allahumma aj’alhum hifazatan likitabik wa du’aatan fi sabilik wa muballighina ‘an rasoolik, Allahumma aj’al al-Qur’aan al-‘Azeem rabee’a quloobihim wa shifaa’a sudoorihim wa nooran li-absarihim.
(O Allah, make them obedient to me, not disobedient, rebellious, nor sinful. O Allah, help me in raising, disciplining, and being good to them, and make that good for both me and them. O Allah, attach their hearts to the mosques and Your obedience, and make them among those who turn to You, love You, and seek You.
O Allah, make them keepers of Your Book, callers to Your path, and conveyors of Your Messenger’s teachings. O Allah, make the Great Quran the spring of their hearts, a healing for their chests, and a light for their eyes.)
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اللهم رقّق طبائع ولدي، وافرحني برؤيته من المهديين والطائعين.
Allahumma raqqiq taba’i waladi, wa afrahni bi ru’yatihi min al-mahdiyin wa at-ta’iin
(O Allah, soften the nature of my child and make me happy by seeing him among the rightly guided and obedient.)
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